Me,as a Leader...

Men behind my dreams

The Men behind my dreams

 

 

 

          In my years in earth, I had always been closed to the men of my life. First, when I was three years old , i was left by my father who committed suicide out of unknown reasons,maybe for sure he lost God that he loses his hope to live.It was so frustrating remembering the thought of losing him just ending his own life. But life must go on, still many men could loved me besides the Almighty father and my genetic father. As i grew older, i was so closed to my uncles and grandparents. They taught me how to be boyish :-). I loved to be with them. I learned how to climb mountains, I learned how to get and cut firewood and I learned how to knock out my cousins as well. Everyday and every year, i idolized the way they taught me how to lived my life. I'm getting stronger like the way they wanted it to be. Suddenly, an Adan came whom I least expect it and made my heart so weak. We bond together, we laugh and loved each other. He's the first man, I loved and cared than any men at all. I learned how to fight for him even my beloved uncles and grandparents. It was sad that I learned to threw painful words to them. Me and Adan wanted to be together for a lifetime but time and people around us didn't allowed it to happen until our relationship began to disappear (thanks for loving me, anyway).
        We wouldn't really know exactly where we are going and whom we are destined to be with us, until faith came in. He is just there waiting for my call and he will decide who is the one for me. I lifted my arms to him and asked for signs  if ho is he? Few years of broken heart, the someone came just when i needed him most. He was there when i cried a lot and he made me smile. Out of nowhere, i thought I will be stock in there just waiting for Adan whom I used to knew and loved. A new Adan came along the way. He loved me because we are happy together, we shared things differently but we agreed instantly, I learned to loved unconditionally. Loving is not expecting often in return. It is total acceptance of what is there and who they are. I wouldn't say ,he will be the right one but I have to be sure that he is my only one.

On Becoming a Leader

ME and My FRIENDS

 People are born not to be alone but to deal with everyone else.Being with PEOPLE are so challenging coz all of us are different,unique in any ways.







 


                                                          
                     We share smiles..

                              We share laughters...

 We share ideas...

                         We share things together...

  

We bond together...

                  We build the world together...

On becoming a leader, the key there to be a good one is to learn how to be with people. Dealing with people of different ideas and personalities is a bit hard to handle. Leadership is not just, answering a 10 items easy questions but its how you continue to answer more and more difficult questions.It's a lifetime responsibility because its in us,just waiting for the perfect timing , a big opportunity, and  lots of experiences to lead.To an extent, leadership is like beauty: it's hard to define, but you know it when you see it.

        Many skills are very important in leadership or in dealing with people, but one skill is essential; the ability to communicate. Whether you are discussing in a meeting, chatting with friends, talking over the phone, checking your people/friends tru facebook,twitters or blogs, what we are doing is communicating. These exchanges are the backbone and the life blood of every organization or relationships.To become an effective leader, one should know how to express themselves fully. By this means, for me I should be aware of my strengths and compensate my weaknesses. I must know what I want, why I wanted it, and how to communicate what I want to others, in order to gain their cooperation and support.Finally, I must know how to achieve the goals of an organization. The key to full self-expression is to understand and learned my own life and experience.In this way,i could find it easy to understand others.I believe that to become a leader is not  born but are made and made more by themselves than by external means.Its all up to me to become a good one,as long as I knew the rules, the goals and be focused, knew the people who will help me in achieving the goals, to understand them as well,and always in mind that I lead because I wanted  to help more people not  just on my vested interests.For me, leading is a talent that we could innovate along the way and improved and be more graceful  when practiced more.Becoming the kind of person who is a leader is act of free will,and if you have the will,this is the way.Leadership is a process of lessons.There is a need for education,both formal or informal; the need to unlearn so that you can learn; the need for reflecting on learning; the need to take risks; make mistakes; and the need for competence,for mastery of the task at hand.Leading is something like becoming yourself,knowing the world,the people around, mastering the work, understanding the basics and moving forward out of chaos and difficulties.

A LEADER WHOM I ADMIRE MOST

             After graduation, I applied immediately as a secretary of Philphos located at Isabel Leyte. Since, I am still a fresh grad and my course is not related to my new job, I had difficulties in adjusting and doing my job well. Fortunately, I had a mentor. She was the Admin Assistant of the SVP-department where I belong. She is Ms. BABY V. PEREZ. I admired her a lot due to her leadership skills. As new to the fields of secretarial, I was able to manage the pressure because of her. She was so approachable that I can easily ask her many questions about how to do this and that even to the simplest things. She really knew her field and master it of which no matter where you put her, she can still answer you promptly. A good leader is not just the one who will often tell you to do things or just do the command but will do it first, for us to follow. She will always leads me the way to do things better.  She guides me and patient enough to accept my mistakes provided that I can do better afterwards, surely I can due to her encouragement. She is a mentor and a friend. She has a clear guiding vision. She has a clear idea of what she wants to do-professionally and personally. We’re not so close but we’re not that far so we can still respect each other’s privacy and maintain the gap to avoid abuse and disrespect when we are at the office. She knew a lot of what to do and when to do this. We bond together after office hours and laugh as friends. She has the passion for her job. She loves what he does and loves doing it. She gives me hope and inspiration each day of seeing her doing her job so well. She never stops learning. She will try new things and take a risk in making decisions. She does not worry about failures.

             Although, she is not a direct leader to most people but still she was to me. She possesses a good quality of being a good leader. She has an excellent brain and with an enormous heart for people.

           I miss her a lot and she's now in Canada with her happy family.Thanks to you Ms. Baby for being a good leader to me,a friend who had given me a millions of smiles and ears and a mother who never let me cry alone. Thanks to you.